Wo-manning up

One of my favorite pastors is Mark Driscoll, an evangelical Christian pastor from Seattle. He and his wife Grace recently published a book called Real Marriage: The Truth about Sex, Friendship, and Life Together, which was received with a firestorm of praise and controversy due to his frank discussion of sex and boldly-stated complementarian views.

In the book and in his preaching, Driscoll does not hesitate to call men, particularly husbands, to a high standard of living. He uses Scripture to challenge them to live out of deep humility and repentance, ensure provision for their families, and love their wives sacrificially, as Christ loved the church.

It’s easy for fangirls like me to hear Driscoll’s preaching and cheer, Yes! This is what the men in the church need to hear. This is how men should act. But it’s much harder to recognize that the challenges he gives to men also apply to us.

I’m a girl, so I don’t have quite the same responsibilities as the men Driscoll calls out. But the challenges and responsibilities of women are of equal weight. We still need to live out of deep humility and repentance, care for our families, and love our (future?) husbands sacrificially.

It’s much easier for us to get angry alongside Driscoll, shaking my fist at those people — men — and rave about how they are not stepping up and need to get their game faces on. But we can’t call men out on the specks in their eyes without first looking at the planks in ours.


4 thoughts on “Wo-manning up

  1. I would say, though, that finding strong biblical references for the strong Christian woman are hard to do, without falling into a traditional, “women serve the Man” conclusion (which I definitely do not support). Much of the more modern perspectives of biblical womanhood are (in my limited opinion) interpretations of select passages – in contrast to the variety available for guys.

    A shame 😦


    1. I disagree with you on a few counts, though I think I just need some clarification from you. There are definitely strong women in the Bible (e.g., Deborah, Jael), though stories of women are fewer than stories of men. There are also a number of stories of both men and women who, through their weakness, became great due to God’s power rather than their own (example: Rahab, Peter).

      What do you mean by “the ‘women serve the Man’ conclusion”? Are you talking about complementarian relationships? Or the stereotypical, overly-perfect Proverbs 31 wife? Or…something else?

      It’s funny; I’ve never been bummed by the fact that women aren’t mentioned as often as men are in the Bible. Maybe that’s the anti-feminist* part of me, haha.

      (*I will explain what I mean by this word in a future blog post.)

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